A Bunch of Questions Designed to Provoke Thought

Look at your life circumstances, like your health, wealth (or lack of). Did you chose them? Look back at the series of events that got you to where you are today. How much were you really in control?

Some say that people need to make good choices if they expect to have a good life. This POV downplays the role of one’s background, environment or family and instead prioritizes self-determination.

Do you think people in dire straits have made poor choices, or were they swept up by forces outside their control?

Does it scare you that people can get swept up by forces outside their control?

If you admit that others might not have had a choice about whether they went bankrupt, contracted AIDS, or became refugees (for example), is it then scary to admit that these these could happen some day to you or someone you care about?

What if true strength comes from learning to navigate the stormy waters of life’s unpredictability with acceptance? What if instead of judging yourself or others harshly, you just accepted what has happened and what is happening?

Photo of Some people having a blast letting life take them on a twisty ride

Some people having a blast letting life take them on a bumpy ride. Click the pic to learn more about where this.

I don’t claim to have any answers, but I think the questions are worth asking.

Facebook Learning Curve

I’ve been using Facebook for a long time, and so have many of my Facebook friends, but some things about it are just not intuitive.

Who Can See What You Posted?

Here’s an issue that crops up a lot for me, because I only share to Friends, rarely ever to Public. So what happens is I post a link to an article, then one of my friends thinks it’s great (thanks!), and then Shares it directly from Facebook, rather than clicking on the link and posting from the link. (The depressing thing about this is that they may not have even looked at the link at all, just saw the headline and pressed Share underneath.)

The trouble is that the thing they just shared will only be visible to themselves and the Mutual Friends we happen to have, if any. Everyone else will just see “Attachment Unavailable” or something like that.

I’m guessing a lot of folks are using Facebook on their Phones and either can’t see or aren’t aware of the icons (below) that show who can see a Post. Check out these little pictures (ignore the time stamp, it’s just there to clue in to where you will see these icons in FB):

 

Friends

 

 Public

 

Friends of Friends **

 

So if you see that something is marked as Friends, you won’t be able to share it directly from Facebook and have your Friends actually see it. (Hi Mom!) If it’s a link, click through to the site and post to Facebook from there.

**Whoa, how do you post to Friends of Friends!?

I just started using “Friends of Friends” for things I don’t mind being a bit more Public that just “Friends.” It’s not obvious how to do this, so here are the steps:

As you are posting, click the button next to Post, select More, then See All, then Custom

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Then start typing in the box “Friends of friends” and it will look like this:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Select “Friends of friends” and Save Changes.

Now let’s look at a different topic that has been affecting several of my friends, mainly female ones.

Fake Friends

You get a friend request and don’t recognize the person. The vast majority of the time, you should absolutely not friend these strangers. In fact, you may even want to take the extra step of blocking them. Why? They could be scammers trying to get personal information. They could be trolls wanting to harass you. Some extra reasons to be suspicious:

  1. You have no mutual friends
  2. There’s a disconnect with the profile picture vs the person’s page, for example, the profile picture looks like a stock photo of a female model but the page appears to be a man’s
  3. The person’s page contains extremist language or hateful memes
  4. They’ve been on Facebook less than a year and have posted very little
  5. Their profile pictures all look like stock models
  6. They’ve combined attempting to friend you with a private message containing poor grammar and misspelled words
  7. They appear to have a set up a page for the sole purpose of selling something

 

Baby boomers are awesome

Baby boomers are awesome. Here’s why:

  • They grew up without the Internet, NetFlix and smart phones, so they know how to focus on a task without being distracted
  • They were there during the civil rights and anti-war movements and have the experience to mobilize for any threats they see on the horizon
  • They remember what it was like before safe abortion was legal
  • Most are retired but still active and have plenty of time for meeting, marching, educating
  • Healthcare is very important to them, as it could be the deciding factor on whether they die in poverty or have something to leave behind for their children

Baby boomers are ready to lead the resistance. Let’s learn from them.

NaPoWriMo 2017, poem 19

When people don’t reply

to email, texts, messages, calls,

I begin to write fiction

in my mind.

They must be busy

They must not care

They must hate me

They must be sick

They must be dead

Do I try again to rouse a response?

If I do, will it wake up

the dearly departed

or am I merely kicking someone

when they are down?

There is never a right answer

to the questions I ask myself

or others.

People were designed for face to face.

But here we are, so many miles

apart so I keep on pinging, nagging,

digging up daisies

until it kills me.

When there’s diabetes in the family

Our cat Sketch has Type 2 Diabetes and we’re so used to dealing with it now. Here are some highlights of our reality:

  1. There’s a sharps container in the kitchen. Relegated to the floor for food safety purposes, it’s a bright red reminder that someone in the family gets shots every day.
  2. All the adults in the house have accidentally stabbed themselves with the syringe or lancet at least once. It happens. It doesn’t matter how careful you think you are being.
  3.  Sometimes a lancet falls on the ground. It’s cool when it actually pierces the floor, like in this pic.
  4. You wake up in the night and wonder if your cat is having a seizure somewhere in the house. Sketch hasn’t yet had a seizure or hypoglycemic incident, but sometimes I worry about him in the middle of the night.
  5. When you can’t find the cat, you wonder if he’s dead. Especially when his blood glucose numbers can ride a roller coaster between 50 and 650+ I start wondering just how many lives this animal has left.
  6. You get used to the blood testing equipment just sort of chillin’ in the middle of other family activities. As when the Easter baskets came out and the journal and bowl o’ supplies got into the pic, because they were there, like they always are, right next to my place at the kitchen table. 

What’s Everyone Freaking Out About Today?

If I could be cynical for a bit…my brain thinks it’s visiting social media for some excitement, but what’s really happening is a desire to get an answer to one or more of the following questions:

  • What event or news is everyone upset about today?
  • What’s the latest thing we are criticizing each other for doing, or not doing?
  • What well known person has died, and how many people are going to freak out because of it?
  • Which movie/TV Show/cultural phenomenon is everyone distracting themselves with?

Here’s the thing: Do I really want answers to these questions? I don’t.

Like anyone, what I’m really seeking is happiness. Remember happiness? Good old happiness. It certainly isn’t to be found in the realm of social media.

Child’s Desk Makeover

My tween’s desk has been a source of parental horror for me ever since I caught her eating a bowl of soup directly in front of the laptop keyboard. Banning soup from the area isn’t enough though. I mean, look at the photo below. She doesn’t have any real space to do her crafts while watching endless sessions of PopularMMOs on the laptop screen. I’ve been telling her for months that we just need to raise the lappy up on a platform, push it back aways, and add a bluetooth keyboard which we have kicking around, but she recoiled every time I brought it up, apparently unable to convince herself that the effort of moving her little bins of whatsit back there were going to be worth it.

"Before"

“Before”

So while she was at school one day last week, I decided to take matters in to my own hands, aka, “saving her from herself.” It’s a power technique all parents need to have in their toolkit when raising a stubborn child.

Once I got past stripping away layers of garbage and out of place materials I began to notice some shrewd transformations my child had done:

Clever use of pencil sharpeners to hold those silly little golf pencils

Clever use of pencil sharpeners to hold those silly little golf pencils

 

Cheap windchime kit ingeniously morphed into a mobile with straws, paper clips and little paper shapes.

Cheap wind chime kit ingeniously morphed into a mobile with straws, paper clips and little paper shapes.

Once there was room, I moved all the little bins and put in these cheap plastic shelves from Daiso and then arranged her stuff. Lappy went up on a riser with the keyboard tucked underneath.

See how much better it looks? Well, it’s not Pinterest-worthy but still. In my house, this counts as serious progress. Especially since the kid loved it.

"After"

“After”